I Need a Kidney—And Maybe You Can Help…
This isn’t easy to write, but it comes from a place of both hope and gratitude.
I feel both blessed and challenged right now.
Blessed, because when I learned it was time to plan for a transplant, my family stepped forward. Then close friends—and even some friends of friends—offered to be tested. Their generosity has been overwhelming.
Challenged, because between health concerns, logistical complications, and plain bad luck, none of those offers have been able to move forward.
That’s why I’m opening the circle wider and reaching out more broadly. Perhaps you—or someone in your community—might be the right fit. Even if you’re not, just reading, sharing, or holding me in your thoughts helps more than you know. To everyone who has already stepped forward, and to you for taking a moment now—thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I’m Sujata
I’ll admit: this is challenging to write. Talking about myself doesn’t come easily—I’m always unsure if I’m saying too much or too little. And really, how do you capture who you are in just a few lines, especially when it matters this much? But here’s what I’ll try.
I’m Sujata. I’m curious about people and the world. My career has been built around asking good questions, chasing down stories, and connecting the dots—whether through producing documentaries, booking thought leaders for interviews, or helping develop meaningful creative projects. I’ve always been drawn to storytelling in all its forms, and I find joy in uncovering the hidden threads that connect us.
I love discovering new places (with a well-worn passport to prove it), wandering through museums, reading books that spark big feelings, and sharing long conversations over good food. I’ve lived in big cities and small towns, carrying pieces of each with me—along with a deep appreciation for friendship, serendipity, and the quiet power of kindness.
Most of all, I’m rooted in the people I love. I spend as much time as I can with family, friends, and colleagues who have walked through life with me in all kinds of ways. I’m especially lucky to be an aunt (by blood and by choice) to some incredible kids who remind me every day what joy, honesty, and goofiness look like. Being part of this wide, wonderful community—and helping others feel seen and cared for along the way—is one of my greatest joys.
Why I Need a Kidney
In my early 20s, I was diagnosed with lupus, an autoimmune disease that—among other things—can affect the kidneys. For nearly two years, I went through aggressive treatment, including chemotherapy drugs. It was a tough time, but the treatment worked and the damage stopped. (Also, life lesson: hair grows back!)
Back then, my doctors told me that one day I would likely need a kidney transplant. I tucked that information away and lived my life. Thankfully my kidneys hung on—doing their job quietly and impressively for many years.
But last year, my doctor said it was time to start planning. My brother generously offered to be my donor, but he wasn’t eligible. That set off a new chapter: a year of hope, testing, and countless conversations with transplant coordinators. First, my family came forward in droves, full of love and willingness. Then close friends—and even some friends of friends—stepped up. I’ve felt incredibly fortunate to have so many people offer. But between health concerns, logistical complications, and a bit of bad luck, none of those offers have been able to move forward.
On a lighter note, you may realize this is the same condition Selena Gomez had. Four months after her transplant, she was singing at the AMAs, my fantasy is I will be doing the same!
Frequently Asked Questions
Will donating a kidney impact my own health long-term?
Living donors typically lead completely normal, active, and healthy lives with just one kidney. Donors are carefully screened to make sure the risk is minimal. And if by chance a donor ever needed a kidney themselves later in life, they are automatically placed at the top of the transplant waiting list, ensuring they receive priority care.
What does the testing and donation process involve exactly?
The process begins with a simple health questionnaire and a basic blood test to see if you're a potential match. If you're a match, you'll have some additional medical tests (like scans and urine tests) to make sure you're healthy enough to donate. The surgery itself is common and safe—usually done laparoscopically—and takes about 3–4 hours, followed by a short hospital stay.
How long is the recovery period? Will I have to miss work?
Recovery typically takes about 2–4 weeks, though it varies by individual. Most donors return to their normal routines and work within that time. Many workplaces support kidney donation and offer flexible scheduling. Your healthcare team will guide you on exactly what to expect.
Does it cost money to donate a kidney? Will my expenses be covered?
Donors typically incur no medical expenses. All donor-related medical costs (testing, surgery, hospital stay, follow-up care) are covered by my health insurance. Additionally, there are often resources available to cover incidental expenses, like travel or lodging.
How do I find out if I'm a match? Is testing painful?
Testing to see if you're a match involves simple blood tests—similar to a standard blood draw at your doctor’s office or lab. There's minimal discomfort, and you'll have supportive medical staff guiding you through every step.
Can I change my mind during the process?
Absolutely. Donating a kidney is a completely voluntary decision. At any point—even right before surgery—you can change your mind without pressure or repercussions. Medical teams prioritize your well-being and comfort above all else.
Can I donate if I live in another city or state?
Yes! Many kidney donors come from different cities or states. Medical teams regularly coordinate these logistics. You’ll typically be able to complete much of your testing locally, with travel required primarily for the surgery itself. Most transplant centers provide comprehensive support and planning assistance.
What if I’m willing to donate, but I’m not a match for you?
That's actually not a problem! Many successful transplants happen through kidney exchanges (also called "kidney swaps"). This process matches donors and recipients across a larger network. So even if you're not directly compatible with me, you could still help by donating your kidney to someone else in the network whose donor matches with me. This way, multiple lives—including mine—can be transformed through your generosity.
If this has sparked something in you—curiosity, compassion, or even just the desire to learn more—I’d love to hear from you.
You can reach me directly at sujatathomas at gmail dot com, or contact the donor team at Strong Memorial Hospital at 585-275-7753 (press option 1) to speak with someone about the donation process.
Even if you’re not in a place to donate, sharing this page with others can help more than you know.
To those of you reading this in Davidson — thank you. Growing up there gave me such a strong sense of community, and it means the world to feel that same care and support now.
Thank you so much for reading, and for being part of my circle.