I Need a Kidney—And Maybe You Can Help…
This isn’t an easy thing to share, but after several generous members of my family who hoped to donate got dinged for various health reasons (though diabetes the scourge of the South Asian community was the main reason!), I need to widen the circle. I’m now looking for a living kidney donor—and reaching out to my community and beyond.
You might be a match, or you might know someone who is. Even if you’re not a direct match, you could still help through a donor exchange program that allows kidney “swaps” to help more people get the transplant they need.
If you’re curious, please read on. There’s no commitment in asking questions or learning more. I’m so grateful you’re here.
I’m Sujata
I’m someone who’s endlessly curious about people and the world. I’ve built a career out of asking good questions, chasing down stories, and connecting the dots—whether that meant producing documentaries, booking thought leaders for interviews, or helping develop meaningful, creative projects.
I love discovering places (with a well-worn passport to prove it), wandering through museums, reading books that spark big feelings, and sharing long conversations over good food. I’ve lived in big cities and small towns, and I carry pieces of each with me—along with a deep appreciation for friendship, serendipity, and the quiet power of kindness.
I’m also deeply rooted in the people I love. I spend as much time as I can with my family, friends, and colleagues—people who have walked through life with me in all kinds of ways. I’m especially lucky to be an aunt (by blood and by choice) to some pretty incredible kids, who remind me daily what joy, honesty, and goofiness look like. Being part of this wide, wonderful community—and having them as part of me—is one of my greatest joys.
Why I Need a Kidney
In my early 20s, I was diagnosed with lupus, an autoimmune disease that—among other things—can affect the kidneys. For nearly two years, I went through aggressive treatment, including chemotherapy drugs. It was a tough time, but the treatment worked, and the damage stopped. (Also, important life lesson: hair grows back!)
Back then, my doctors told me that one day I would likely need a kidney transplant. I tucked that information away and, thankfully, my kidneys hung on—doing their job quietly and impressively for many years.
But last year, my doctor said it was time to start planning. My brother had generously offered to be my donor, but when he was tested, we discovered he wasn’t eligible. That set off a new chapter: a year of hope, testing, and more conversations with transplant coordinators than I ever imagined. My family showed up in droves, full of love and willingness—but between medical hurdles, logistical complications, and a good dose of bad luck, none of them have panned out yet.
On a side note: yes, this is the same condition that Selena Gomez had. And yes, I’m leaning fully into the idea that this basically makes me and Selena twins.
Frequently Asked Questions
Will donating a kidney impact my own health long-term?
Living donors typically lead completely normal, active, and healthy lives with just one kidney. In fact, many donors report their overall health remains unchanged. Doctors carefully screen potential donors to ensure the risk is minimal.
What does the testing and donation process involve exactly?
The process begins with a simple health questionnaire and a basic blood test to see if you're a potential match. If you're a match, you'll have some additional medical tests (like scans and urine tests) to make sure you're healthy enough to donate. The surgery itself is common and safe—usually done laparoscopically—and takes about 3–4 hours, followed by a short hospital stay.
How long is the recovery period? Will I have to miss work?
Recovery typically takes about 2–4 weeks, though it varies by individual. Most donors return to their normal routines and work within that time. Many workplaces support kidney donation and offer flexible scheduling. Your healthcare team will guide you on exactly what to expect.
Does it cost money to donate a kidney? Will my expenses be covered?
Donors typically incur no medical expenses. All donor-related medical costs (testing, surgery, hospital stay, follow-up care) are covered by my health insurance. Additionally, there are often resources available to cover incidental expenses, like travel or lodging.
How do I find out if I'm a match? Is testing painful?
Testing to see if you're a match involves simple blood tests—similar to a standard blood draw at your doctor’s office or lab. There's minimal discomfort, and you'll have supportive medical staff guiding you through every step.
Can I change my mind during the process?
Absolutely. Donating a kidney is a completely voluntary decision. At any point—even right before surgery—you can change your mind without pressure or repercussions. Medical teams prioritize your well-being and comfort above all else.
Can I donate if I live in another city or state?
Yes! Many kidney donors come from different cities or states. Medical teams regularly coordinate these logistics. You’ll typically be able to complete much of your testing locally, with travel required primarily for the surgery itself. Most transplant centers provide comprehensive support and planning assistance.
What if I’m willing to donate, but I’m not a match for you?
That's actually not a problem! Many successful transplants happen through kidney exchanges (also called "kidney swaps"). This process matches donors and recipients across a larger network. So even if you're not directly compatible with me, you could still help by donating your kidney to someone else in the network whose donor matches with me. This way, multiple lives—including mine—can be transformed through your generosity.
If this has sparked something in you—curiosity, compassion, or even just the desire to learn more—I’d love to hear from you.
You can reach me directly at sujatathomas at gmail dot com, or contact the donor team at Strong Memorial Hospital at 585-275-7753 (press option 1) to speak with someone about the donation process.